Finding out you’re pregnant—especially when you weren’t expecting it—can feel overwhelming. If you’re unsure how to bring it up with your partner, you’re not alone. Many people face this moment with a mix of fear, uncertainty, and questions. TLC of Hastings is here to walk with you through it.
Summary
Talking to your partner about an unplanned pregnancy can be one of the most difficult conversations you’ll ever have. With the right mindset and support, it can also be the beginning of a shared journey. Here are a few things to keep in mind—and how TLC can help.
On this page
- ▾ Why This Conversation Matters
- ▾ When and How to Talk to Your Partner
- ▾ How TLC Can Help
- ▾ Frequently Asked Questions
Why This Conversation Matters
Whether your relationship is new, long-term, or uncertain, open communication is key to navigating this moment. Your partner may be surprised, emotional, or confused—and that’s okay. The goal of this conversation isn’t to have all the answers right away, but to start with honesty and care.
When and How to Talk to Your Partner
1. Choose the Right Time and Place
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Pick a quiet, private setting without distractions.
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Avoid texting or bringing it up during an argument.
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Make sure you both have time to talk without rushing.
2. Be Honest and Calm
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Share the news clearly and gently:
“I just found out I’m pregnant, and I’m still processing everything. I wanted you to know.” -
Avoid jumping into decisions too quickly.
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Give them time to absorb the news.
3. Expect a Range of Reactions
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Your partner may be supportive, scared, silent, or upset.
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Let them react without trying to control their emotions.
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It’s okay to take time and space before making any decisions together.
4. Talk About Your Feelings, Not Just the Facts
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Share how you feel—confused, scared, conflicted, even hopeful.
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Encourage them to share too.
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Try using “I” statements to keep the tone supportive:
“I’m scared too, and I’m trying to figure this out.”
5. Make a Plan for Next Steps
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Suggest taking a pregnancy test or getting an ultrasound together.
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Consider talking with a TLC advocate as a couple.
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Let them know support is available—for both of you.
How TLC Can Help
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Free, lab-quality pregnancy testing and ultrasounds
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Confidential counseling and options education
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Support for partners and fathers through mentoring and fatherhood programs
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Guidance in discussing parenting, adoption, and abortion options
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A safe place to ask questions and get clarity—together or alone
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Frequently Asked Questions
Should I tell my partner right away?
If it’s safe to do so, yes. Honesty can help reduce stress and begin a shared plan. But if you feel unsafe, talk to someone you trust first—TLC can help.
What if I’m scared of how they’ll react?
That’s completely valid. You don’t have to face this alone. We can help you prepare or even speak with both of you together.
Can TLC help him too?
Yes. We offer male mentoring and support programs specifically for partners and fathers.
Do I need to have a plan before I tell him?
No. You don’t have to have everything figured out. Start with the truth and go from there.
Is this conversation confidential?
Yes. Anything you share with TLC is completely confidential—whether you come alone or together.